On the one hand, I was in the "Aunty" category. On the plus side, I had a valid reason for not hitting the dance floor because I was trying to keep an eye on ZP busting his moves but hopefully not busting his head. I was excused from heavy labor such as "bring the coffee table up from the basement and put it on the truck" or "decorate the entire tent with the yellow and turquoise streamers" because I had to be available for AP duty at a moment's notice. I was unfettered by propriety and was confident enough to sneak an entire raspberry chocolate cheesecake out of the freezer during the middle of the mehndi so that my cousins, my mother, and I could dig into it before it was all gone or forgotten. On the negative side, I missed out on the shoe-stealing tradition because I had to leave early to put the kids to bed. I couldn't put mehndi on my hands because I had to have them free to grab/carry/wrestle ZP to the ground and lasso him up when needed (although I didn't see any opportunity to do so anyway, so just as well). And I couldn't take as many pix as I wanted to because my attention was constantly divided between the parties and my duties.
On the other hand, I still seem to be in the "kid" category. I was in charge of matching up sets of churiyan (bangles) for the guests (this post was previously held by a 13 year old). I was giggling maniacally with my cousins by the pool and at the wedding about the stupidest but funniest stuff as we kept trying to outwit each other or make increasingly absurd comments about the guests/family/everything. "Line thee, cross ho gai." I still got a fashion critique about my outfit from an older aunty which was completely unnecessary but so predictable.
So where do I fall in the spectrum? Am I the aunty who maintained a lengthy conversation about threading versus waxing or child-rearing while the others were doing chores? Or am I the kid lugging in 50 bags of groceries while a perfectly capable and healthy couple of young men are lounging around reading magazines or napping? I guess I am both. Jack of all trades, master of none. A chameleon who can blend into any crowd. In the end, I am, and always will be, "Baji." The title allows me to boss people around but still (hopefully) be fun to be around. The title grants me access to all doors and groups. The title suits me. Don't you think?